Sunday, December 7, 2008

My Mom

On December 6, 1986, my Mom died of cancer. She was, among countless other things, beautiful, silly, supportive, stylish, intelligent, complicated, witty, gifted, dorky, sophisticated, encouraging, quirky, and loving. She was, in many ways, an amazing mother-- a great listener, a raving fan, an imaginative playmate. She was far from perfect, but she taught me more than anyone I've ever known. I have missed her every single day of the 22 years she's been gone.

I realized that I didn't have any pictures of her on my computer, so I've been scanning some today. So, if you'll indulge me, here's my Mom. Her name was Marjorie.

These are from her senior year of high school.






This one is soon after I was born. She's with her sister, my Aunt Amy, and my cousins, Becky and Bill.

[Sidenote: Despite growing up in different states, seeing each other only on holidays, Becky and I would grow up to be roommates in college, soul-mates, best friends. Her birthday was yesterday. Happy birthday, Becky Old Lady!]








Sometimes she was kind of a fashionista. This was after a football game. (My dad was the coach. I suppose I was the mascot.) I think she made that outfit herself. I love the scarf!









A couple of years later, I got a brother! His name was Matt. (To this day, his name is Matt, in fact!)

I think this is one of the happiest pictures I have of Mom.


This was when I was in first grade. Every morning, she and Matt would watch me get on the bus at Kevin Hayward's driveway, a couple of houses down the street. Then, they'd go to the Waffle House for breakfast. Her favorite waitress, Charlene, would put their order in as soon as her car pulled into the parking lot. We loooved Charlene.

I now have a deep, possibly ridiculous love for the Waffle House. Thanks, Mom!







I know my face is all cruddy in this picture, but it's one of my favorites. I think it was taken at the photobooth at the K-Mart or something.






This portrait was taken when I was about 12. Check out my wings!






This was in Destin. I think I was in ninth or tenth grade. I got my love for beach time from Mom.

Finally, what I think is my most recent picture of Mom, probably not too long before she became ill. I think this was taken at Lake Rabun, in North Georgia. She loved spending time at the Mountains, and relished every trip up there.


If you're still with me, thank you. She was a special, unique woman, and I just felt like sharing a bit of her here.

I love love love you, Mom.

Kim

38 comments:

Jez/Jen said...

Beautiful post. Love the pics - our family photos look very similar. Aaah, the 70's...
I can see the resemblance between you and her.

Jelly said...

wow, you look just like her. i love that you can focus on the good memories. now, everyone look away while i hug Kimmy.

KimmyDarling said...

Thanks, Jez. The 70s were awesome, weren't they? ;)

Jelly, thanks for the non-hug. =)

Kelly said...

You really do look like your Mom, KimmyD. It's so good when you can focus on the good memories like that, and I'm glad you shared your pictures with us.

Carol said...

What an awesome tribute! I'm sure she's very proud of the way you turned out.

The resemblance between the two of you is uncanny.

Allie said...

wow, you look like your mom. and make me wanna call my mom and remind her of how much i love her.

and i love you, but you know that.

KimmyDarling said...

Thanks, y'all. I'm lucky have at least about a million great memories of her.

Danielle said...

What a beautiful tribute to your mom, Kim. You really do look just like her, and I must say that after looking at the picture taken of the three of you soon after Matt was born, if you update your cute 70's clothes to now, that could be Elsie standing next to your mom....what a resemblance you and your niece share. :)

KimmyDarling said...

Thank you, Danielle. I agree-- Elsie and I do look remarkably similar. =)

Kat said...

It is a bittersweet time of year isn't it? Thanks sooo very much for your comment the other day when I wrote about the death of my dad. I had no idea that you lost your mom while we were still in high school. I just cannot even imagine the pain of that.

The resemblance between the two of you is uncanny. On the outside. And on the inside :-)

KimmyDarling said...

You're welcome, Kat. I loved your blog about your Dad. =)

Jennifer A. Ray said...

Kimmy, your Mom was beautiful and the pictures are wonderful. I am so glad you have such special memories of her.

(((Kimmy)))

KimmyDarling said...

Thanks, Jen! xoxokd

Tricia said...

She was gorgeous...and you are the image of her.

Thank you for sharing her with us...it was a beautiful tribute.

XOXOX
Tricia

nettiemac said...

What a beautiful tribute to your mom -- and I know she would be proud of the person you are today!

KimmyDarling said...

Thanks, y'all. I really appreciate your kind words.

love,
Kimmy

Matt said...

Kim... thanks for doing this. As the years go by, the amount of time we actually spent with her just gets smaller and smaller. This has helped bring back some great memories though. Thanks, and I love you. Yep, I said it publicly. :p

Everyone else... thanks for saying great stuff about our mom. She was exactly as Kim described. And she definitely lives on in my sister and in my children.

Finding Normal said...

Beautiful post about a beautiful woman.

KimmyDarling said...

Thanks, Matrick. I love you, too.

Melissa said...

Wow. Those are great pics, KD. I can see you in her, beautiful.

KimmyDarling said...

Thank you, Harly! Love you.

angelajo said...

Wow Kimmy, your mom was beautiful and you look just like her! What a great post, thanks for sharing her with us!

KimmyDarling said...

Thank you, Angela. =)

Gladys said...

Kimmy, I loved your post about your mother. I am sitting here crying. I lost my mother in 2006 on December 20. I have a particularly hard time this time of year. I am so happy you shared your mother with us. Thank you.

She is beautiful and so are you both inside and out.
Thanks
Sparklie

tanya said...

Kimmy,
I loved the pictures! You look so much like your mamma! You really are such a nice person and I know she would be so excited at how cool and fun you are!
I want to hug you too!! :)

KimmyDarling said...

Sparklie, I'm so sorry for your loss. I promise it does get easier. Hugs to you.

Tanya, thank you so much. Hugs to you, too! =)

Kimberley said...

What a beautiful, poignant post. I loved learning about your mom and what she meant to you. She must have been really special...you must be too.

Suzanne said...

I can't even begin to tell you how honored and proud she would be of the woman you have become. I know I can't.
Suzanne

Reckless Love and Bold Adventure said...

I can't get over the resemblance! You two could be twins! I know how proud you are of her being your mom and how much you miss her. I love you and thanks for sharing this!
xo,
your fatass friend.

Parin Stormlaughter said...

:)

Valasie said...

Kimmy...Thanks for sharing these awesome photos of your Mom. You are not biased. She IS beautiful and I can see how you would miss her still. I lost my Dad in 1966. He was 46 and I was 15. I so get not a day goes by sentiment.

Carol said...

What a wonderful tribute to your mom.

Anonymous said...

Kim, thank you for sharing these precious memories and photos with us.. I had no idea you were so young when you lost your Mom. You have become an amazing person and I know your mom is proud. Jeannette B

Valasie said...

Thanks for posting this. I have heard you talk about your Mom over the past couple of years we have become fast friends and it is terrific to put a face on the many different seasons of life to the name Kimmy's Mom. I wish I could say I can only imagine but I know the drill intimately myself and therefore I appreciate the poignancy of your post and can feel her charisma and her zest for living through the photos and your words. In many ways, you were BOTH lucky to have such women of substance in your Mother/Daughter relationship.

qandlequeen said...

Clearly she was an amazing woman. Thanks for sharing.

KimmyDarling said...

Thank you for your kind words, Carol, Jeannette, Val, and Dem. I am feeling so fortunate for the years I had with my mom and for the friends I have in my life now. =)

BluenBham Bloggin' said...

i LOVED reading this, kimmy!!! i HEART you and your mom!! she'd be happy to know that you turned into a mommy of sorts to several igmos in college. :D

KimmyDarling said...

Thanks, Blue! I heart you, too.